Sasha Joyman is a relationship and dating expert who didn't plan on becoming one — she backed into it by accident.

She became a content creator, and the biggest part of the job turned out to be talking to men. Listening to them, she started learning the problems they actually have. After helping one man save his marriage, she kept listening — and kept helping.

Thousands of conversations later, she knows what most relationship advice misses: what men actually fear, actually want, and never say out loud — even to the people they love. She uses that on both sides of the table now, for men and for the women trying to understand them.

She's currently running The Dating Experiment, testing every real-world and online way to meet someone — because when she was single, she had no idea where to start, and suspected she wasn't the only one.